It’s friday night … somewhere in the world, at least. Or maybe I’m pushing it since I’ve missed two weeks of friday posts, and yes I realize I’m such a horrible person. I can’t even stick to my own schedule!
I was planning on posting before I left for tonight’s shenanigans but obviously did not get a chance to do so (cause I was too busy taking selfies). Ahem. Tonight was one of my coworkers/really close friend’s birthday, and so we had gone out for dinner and drinks to celebrate. When we got there Sonia, Raveen and I decided to split a bottle between ourselves since Michelle had already gotten a drink for herself. Varun (my manager) showed up quite a bit after that and it was just the five of us for quite a while. In between getting food and whatnot, the three of us manage to go through three bottles of wine in roughly two hours. On top of that, Raveen and Sonia wanted to go out to a bar afterwards and I was like, okay, I am going to cut myself off from alcohol if we’re going to go somewhere else.
… we ended up at a bowling alley … without the birthday girl. Let’s not go into details, but it only ended up being Raveen, Varun, Sonia and I at this cosmic bowling alley. I’ve only ever gone bowling once in high school in the eleventh grade and haven’t gone since. So, as you can expect, I was pretty horrible. Sonia wasn’t really focused on bowling, she was mostly upset about the fact that the bowling alley refused to serve our lane alcohol because for some reason they figured out we had been drinking previously. I was completely okay with that. Also, Varun totally wiped us out in bowling, I almost felt like he was holding back a little.
As much as I am angry with Varun in terms of work, and as much as he pisses me off, tonight made me realize that I actually do care for him as a friend. We were friends before he became the manager of the store, and I feel like I needed to be in a different environment in order for me to actually appreciate him as a friend. Being pushed into the employee/manager role all of the time and looking at numbers and commission obviously created some type of resentment there between us—mostly one-sided on my part. I think I needed this down time in order to remember that we do have a personal relationship outside of work.
I think what also pushed me to this realization was the fact that he confided in me just how stressed he is the other night when he dropped me off. During our conversation in the car I actually felt bad for him. I think being in a management position is difficult for him when three or four of his part-timers were part-timers with him and went through the stages of his management change. I feel like a lot of the time we tend to overlook the fact that if we’re so frustrated with him, he’s also so frustrated with us. It also doesn’t help that when we try to talk to him about it, it means more to him than it does to us because now it’s his store rather than just a part-time job like it is for us part-timers.
I feel like in order for all of us part-timers and Varun to get over this frustration that we all have for each other, we need to have a conversation outside of work about it on a personal level. Having a conversation about work at work is just going to make emotions just run overboard.
Anyway.
It’s friday night, are you sighing yet?
Me? I’m slightttttly tipsy 😛